If your boyfriend loved your look when you first met, what happened 8 to 11 months down the line that he now laments or complains about your appearance? He wants you to overhaul your wardrobe and change the way you look. He is probably tired of you and does not know how to say it. He should not dictate how you dress.
Privacy is your privacy. You let him know what you want him to know and keep other things to yourself. He should not check your emails and phone, know your account balance and other personal stuff without your consent. It is very disrespectful.
To give up your religion
You may belong to different religious faith but he cannot order you to convert to his own if you do not want to. In fact, before you start dating you should thrash the issue of religion. If both of you disagree and seems that it is his religion or nothing else, please waka.
To quit your job
He has his job and you have your job. Everyone should keep their jobs. Of course, you are an ambitious and homely woman. But, it is not in the place for your boyfriend to tell you to leave your job without providing you with an alternative like setting you up with a business. He is just prepping you for the position of a full house housewife.