By Oluwatoyin Adeleye
You might be trying so hard to move ahead in life, but find that it is increasingly difficult. Sometimes, it is not life just being hard on you. It may be that you are carrying things that are a bit too heavy. Once you let go of the things in life that are holding you back, the quicker you will be able to achieve your goals. Check out a list of things that can hold you back from moving ahead in life:
- Other People’s Opinions
Yes, it is positive to listen to criticisms, as they help you grow. But you have to be able to differentiate between positive criticisms and full-on hating. People will always talk about you – you just have to accept that it is their opinion and everyone is entitled to their opinion of you. Fact is people who engage in incessant gossip are unhappy with their own lives so they seek to degrade others to try and enhance their self-worth.
You have to quit explaining yourself. Yes you made a move, not everyone is going to understand it. You cannot keep stopping to explain to everyone the motives behind that move. As long as you know what you are doing and what you are aiming for, just move ahead and try to ignore the callbacks.
The sooner you stop holding high expectations of people, the happier you will be and the freer you will feel to forge ahead with your life. People are going to disappoint you. It is normal human wiring. So learn not to expect too much so that you will not be too disappointed too often.
4. Your Past
The past is over and if you have done all you can do to make up for your mistakes, then there is nothing else you can do at this point. If people throw this in your face, then you need to cut these people out of your life. Everyone makes mistakes, it’s a part of growing up. As long as you correct your mistakes and learn from them, then that should be all there is to it.
Heartbreaks are easy pullbacks for most people. It makes it difficult to go into another relationship, difficult to trust someone else, difficult even, to love. But, rather than allowing your past to pull you down and harmfully impact your future, use your experiences to grow and learn about yourself.
Someone once said holding a grudge is like swallowing poison and expecting someone else to die. You are hurting no one but yourself when you hold a grudge. It is not healthy for anyone. Forgive, let go and move on. Sometimes, it is easier said than done, but if it is too hard to forgive a certain person, release them in your heart, know that karma will run its course and move away from them so that you won’t be reminded of their wrongs from time to time.
7. Lack of appreciation
Life is full of beautiful things and blessings that you did not even ask for. Waking up each day, seeing your loved ones, having friends, getting help, having a talent, having a job, so many things that seem to just happen are things that actually give us respite from all the stress we go through. Take a few moments to be grateful, no matter what is going on in your life, and naturally, more beautiful things will come your way.
If you keep excusing your failures, you may not move ahead. Stop making up reasons why things are not working out, and thinking, ‘if only I had this, I would achieve that.’ Rather, make do with what yo have and propel yourself forward and you will be surprised how much you can achieve with the little you have.
So lift off these weights and see yourself launch into new heights!
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