Being involved with an overly paranoid partner can be extremely difficult. An insecure partner can be intrusive, invasive, irritating, and annoying. And if you want to deal with an insecure lover effectively, it helps to understand the nature of the problem. Often we can be deeply in love with a person, but their accusations can be incredibly hurtful and totally destroy what was once a peaceful and infatuated relationship.
There are things you can do to help yourself and your partner, though, so here are some tips for handling a paranoid partner.
1. Get to the root cause: The best thing you can do to deal with any problem is to communicate and this means trying to find out why they are feeling paranoid. If you have cheated before the answer is more obvious, but you might be totally devoted and loyal. It could be a past betrayal on the part of your partner but whatever it is, there’s little you can do if you don’t identify the cause.
2. Stay calm and in control: As hard as it may be, you should try not to lose your temper as that totally makes things worse. Staying in control of your anger saves you from saying hurtful words that you can’t possibly retract. It is your life, you should always stay in control of it.
3. Don’t be spiteful: If your partner is very jealous, flirting to wind them up should definitely be avoided. It sounds obvious, but it’s easy to fall into this trap to get back at somebody if you’re upset at their constant accusations. Deliberately spitting them makes things worse.
4. Re-assure your partner: A genuine reassurance of faithfulness does the trick in most instances. Most cases of paranoia occur in long-term relationships, in which the “goosebumps” have slowly died a natural death. A heart-felt reassurance of love and complete loyalty just might do the trick.
5. Listen to your partner: Upon determining the root cause, you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to fully grasp why they’re paranoid until you set your mind to listening to them. In turn, this will help you learn about your paranoid significant other and how to handle their insecurities.
6. Are they guilty?: People that are paranoid and suspicious can sometimes be that way because they’re up to no good themselves (or have been before), and think that for “karma’s” sake, you will do the same thing. If there’s no other obvious cause of paranoia, do ask them outright and look out for suspicious behavior. But be careful, so as not to turn into the paranoid partner yourself.
7. Re-assure your partner: A genuine reassurance of faithfulness does the trick in most instances. Most cases of paranoia occur in long-term relationships, in which the “goosebumps” have slowly died a natural death. A heart-felt reassurance of love and complete loyalty just might do the trick.
8: Seek professional help: If there still seems to be no cause of the paranoia and your partner hates and doesn’t understand the way that they feel, it might be worth suggesting that they see a counsellor or even their psychologist. Their paranoia might be a symptom of a mental health condition that can be treated or managed and if not counselling can help anyway.
9. Don’t be afraid to leave: If you’ve tried everything and your partner just doesn’t seem to want to help himself or herself, and your relationship is making you miserable, leave. It is much better to be alone than be stuck in an unhappy relationship.
If anyone is currently having a hard time handling a paranoid partner, hopefully something here will help you and make you realize you’re not alone.
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